First conquer yourself, then your locality before you attempt to affect the world ( 1 Tim 4 )
(Under Sub-Theme; People Presure)
WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN PEOPLE REJECT YOU?
Sometimes am tempted to think I am the most rejected person on the face of the earth. When I was 14, I was rejected by my girl friend's family for many reasons, one of them been my tempestuous background, they said I had no future. Yes some people believe when you don't have money today, you don't have a future.
In ministry too I have been rejected countless times, plenty.
Recently a pastor asked me to take over his church as head pastor and help it grow again and oh my goodness, the delicious promises. He will start another church somewhere. I told him I didn't want to own a church like that but I can conduct prophetic and deliverance services for him. He didn't like it, am too stiff so he also rejected me.
Christian brothers and sisters also have rejected me especially some feel am proud and unbending, am too busy. The signs are many, they won't call you again and for some if you dare step on their precious toes you are done for.
THE FACT IS ONES YOU ARE A LEADER OR PREACHER IN SHORT A HUMAN, YOU SHALL BE REJECTED.
So what?
I believe it's time we let people have their life. What I do for you today I might not have same time or opportunity to do for you tomorrow, life is never static.
People are like birds and they need freedom of flight, if you don't know this you will sack great and wonderful people from you.
We also have to know that people have a life, and when they can't fit into our mould we shouldn't make them feel like they are plagues. At least we can support them.
So how do you deal with these good guys?
Believe in what you believe in
Don't quit on you, go ahead with what you are doing. Will you quit on what you want to do Just because you are rejected for it?
Give them the long rope, allow them to leave
If they really valued you they will come back for you. But if you were really good you may leave a permanent vacancy which no one can fill. With me, some came back and some didn't. Its okay, that's the beauty of life.
Sometimes it's best to stay away too
People feel bitter at this stage. Some will try to snob you for you know that they are doing it intentionally. Don't mind them, they are not God. Don't go down their level.
The really serious ones might attack you verbally or withhold their friendship or say about things about you; suddenly nothing you do is nice.
Believe me I have been there.
In summary, the people who reject you have genuine reasons.
Its quite unfortunate that we want people to live for us because we have been of help to them, they can't pay us for our kindness but God will.
We must also know that no matter what we do for people our good deeds cannot buy them.
My friend, people will reject you at some point in time, get used to it.
Adieu.
